Aleister at Legal Insurrection reports on a campaign to eliminate the words “husband” and “wife” from federal statutes:
More than two dozen Democrats have proposed legislation that would eliminate the words “husband” and “wife” from federal law.
Those “gendered terms” would be replaced by “gender-neutral” words like “spouse” or “married couple,” according to the bill from Rep. Lois Capps, D-Calif.
“The Amend the Code for Marriage Equality Act recognizes that the words in our laws have meaning and can continue to reflect prejudice and discrimination even when rendered null by our highest courts,” Capps said. “Our values as a country are reflected in our laws. I authored this bill because it is imperative that our federal code reflect the equality of all marriages.”
I can well imagine a time—and that time is probably not too far away—when the words themselves will be considered unacceptably bigoted. I have noticed a trend in that direction, with plenty of liberals I know referring to husbands or wives, boyfriends or girlfriends, as “partners.” Several times I’ve been confused by it, thinking the person to be referring to a business partner or a gay relationship, and been mistaken. In one case, I knew a women for several years, during which she had always referred to her live-in significant other (whom I’d never met) as her “partner.” Imagine my shock when I discovered, after years of assuming she was in a lesbian relationship, that the partner was a man!
In the title of this post I mention Newspeak, Orwell’s name for the language changes fostered by the totalitarian regime in his dystopian novel Nineteen Eighty-Four. The purpose of Newspeak was to limit freedom of thought and label unacceptable concepts as “thoughtcrime” and almost literally unthinkable. But in recent years I’ve often felt that our society is going more in the direction of Huxley’s Brave New World, in which the dystopia is clothed in a kinder, gentler facade:
Mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters. But there were also husbands, wives, lovers. There were also monogamy and romance.
“Though you probably don’t know what those are,” said Mustapha Mond.
They shook their heads.
Family, monogamy, romance. Everywhere exclusiveness, a narrow channelling of impulse and energy.
“But every one belongs to every one else,” he concluded, citing the hypnopé¦dic proverb.
The students nodded, emphatically agreeing with a statement which upwards of sixty-two thousand repetitions in the dark had made them accept, not merely as true, but as axiomatic, self-evident, utterly indisputable.
* * * * * *
“But after all,” Lenina was protesting, “it’s only about four months now since I’ve been having Henry.”
“Only four months! I like that. And what’s more,” Fanny went on, pointing an accusing finger, “there’s been nobody else except Henry all that time. Has there?”
Lenina blushed scarlet; but her eyes, the tone of her voice remained defiant. “No, there hasn’t been any one else,” she answered almost truculently. “And I jolly well don’t see why there should have been.”
“Oh, she jolly well doesn’t see why there should have been,” Fanny repeated, as though to an invisible listener behind Lenina’s left shoulder. Then, with a sudden change of tone, “But seriously,” she said, “I really do think you ought to be careful. It’s such horribly bad form to go on and on like this with one man. At forty, or thirty-five, it wouldn’t be so bad. But at your age, Lenina! No, it really won’t do. And you know how strongly the D.H.C. objects to anything intense or long-drawn. Four months of Henry Foster, without having another man”“why, he’d be furious if he knew ”¦”
* * * * * *
“Think of water under pressure in a pipe.” They thought of it. “I pierce it once,” said the Controller. “What a jet!”
He pierced it twenty times. There were twenty piddling little fountains.
“My baby. My baby ”¦!”
“Mother!” The madness is infectious.
“My love, my one and only, precious, precious ”¦”
Mother, monogamy, romance. High spurts the fountain; fierce and foamy the wild jet. The urge has but a single outlet. My love, my baby. No wonder these poor pre-moderns were mad and wicked and miserable. Their world didn’t allow them to take things easily, didn’t allow them to be sane, virtuous, happy. What with mothers and lovers, what with the prohibitions they were not conditioned to obey, what with the temptations and the lonely remorses, what with all the diseases and the endless isolating pain, what with the uncertainties and the poverty”“they were forced to feel strongly. And feeling strongly (and strongly, what was more, in solitude, in hopelessly individual isolation), how could they be stable?
Nineteen Eighty-Four was written in 1947-8 and published in 1949. Brave New World was written in 1931 and published in 1932, but set about five centuries from now; I think Huxley underestimated the pace of change.
Masterpieces, both.
[ADDENDUM: It occurs to me that I may need to make explicit something that I think is already implicit here but might not be at all clear. This change in the traditional terms “husband” and “wife” is not supported by all gay people, many of whom are happy to finally be able to use the word. But the change in terms—spearheaded by the left, make no doubt about that—is part of a general plan of the left to change the definition of marriage and all it implies, and to reduce the power of the individual family and of individual choice as a whole, while adopting the guise of supporting the family by extending the right to marriage to gay people.
It’s an interesting act of jujitsu. After all, won’t extending marriage to gay people enhance the traditional concept of monogamy in marriage? Doesn’t it strengthen marriage?
It may strengthen something called “marriage,” but that “something” is less and less likely to include either the practice of faithfulness or even the goal of faithfulness as part of marriage. Of course, this trend was well underway long before marriage was something to which gay couples aspired, but the anti-family trend (as Huxley well recognized in the early ’30s, as seen in the excerpt from his work) has long been part of lefist social engineering. Many gay couples are not even aware of this, but leftist activists certainly are.
Countries which have legalized gay marriage are also countries in which the marriage rates had already fallen, cohabitation rates risen as well as unwed births, and marriage had more often been delayed till after children are born. Stanley Kurtz and others attribute the continuation of this trend to gay marriage, but I actually tend to interpret the statistics along similar lines as this author in Slate, who crunches the same numbers and asserts that these changes had been happening for quite some time anyway and that gay marriage was not particularly causative. I think statistics bear that argument out, but it is irrelevant to my point, which is that these trends are part of an inexorable assault by the left on traditional ideas of marriage and all it has stood for.
And the fact that fidelity has always been something that a significant number of people violate doesn’t change the fact that infidelity has been increasing, and that gay marriage probably will have the effect of undermining fidelity further if male gay activists such as Dan Savage get their way and there are more of what he calls “monogamish” relationships (here’s a summary—at a Christian website—of gay activists’ arguments for infidelity in marriage).
It’s all part of the same trend that has resulted in the legalization of same-sex marriage, and language changes are used to solidify the process.]