Have you noticed how many people seem to have adopted the custom of asking all visitors to their homes to take off their shoes?
I’ve been seeing more and more of this in recent years, and it always bugs me. Maybe it shouldn’t—after all, a person has a right to make the rules in his or her home, and if you don’t like it, tough. And I understand it if the weather is bad—muddy, for example—and the shoes are obviously messy in some way.
But as a general rule? It makes it difficult for people like me, who have nerve damage in their feet. In my case it’s from my back injury, but it’s also true of many diabetics (a rather numerous bunch), the elderly, and other random assorted people. If your feet are messed up in some way, it can be painful to walk without shoes, or even (as in my case) without your own carefully selected and nicely broken in shoes.
The pile of assorted slippers the no-shoes crowd kindly provides is not a good substitute. First of all, I wear a very small size that they usually don’t have, and their slippers swim and flop on my feet. Secondly, slippers aren’t comfortable for me in general and I never wear them, even at home.
This fad for no shoes has spread even—or maybe especially—to airbnbs, as you’ll see if you look in the “rules” section for each rental. Some vacation!
And no, most of the people trying to enforce this are not of Japanese origin, where it’s a tradition to remove shoes and where people also used to generally use the floor as furniture.
The rationale here in the US seems to be that it’s more sanitary not to have shoes on the floor. But really, how many people do want to eat off the floor? Do the same people not allowing shoes in the house also refuse to have any pets that walk outside and also walk around in the house (or in some cases, sleep in the owner’s bed)? And how sanitary do they think socks are?
I have some backup for my point of view:
“In general, the concern with shoes ‘tracking germs’ is very misplaced,” says Dr. Amesh A. Adalja, a board-certified infectious disease physician at Johns Hopkins Center for Health Security. This is largely in part due to the icky fact that our home and very bodies are already crawling with germs and microbes.
“There may be aesthetic reasons to remove shoes if they’re soiled with mud or animal feces, but there are just as many bacteria on socks or bare feet,” adds Adalja.
It just seems to me that demanding shoe removal is a way to inconvenience people and the benefits aren’t especially great. And for me, it’s more than an inconvenience. I’ve been stopped at thresholds by the request and had to think about how long I will stay, how much I will sit and how much I will stand or walk, and whether it’s worth it to me to be in discomfort or perhaps pain in order to comply, and if I should speak up or not.
Sometimes I have simply refused and politely explained why, which results in one of those awkward moments when there’s a pause while the host considers whether to refuse me entrance or whether to give me a pass on shoe removal. But even if the person says it’s alright for me to go inside with my offensive shoes still on my poor old feet, then I end up feeling like some sort of pariah.
I hope the fad doesn’t spread any further, but I have a hunch it will.