Today I was sent a link to this this piece, which discusses the enraged reaction of some radical feminists to the idea of sympathy cards (or even sympathy itself) for men whose female significant others have had abortions and are grieving about it.
My first response was to think the entire concept of abortion sympathy cards for anyone to be exceedingly odd. My second was extreme annoyance.
Maybe I’m just is a pissy mood today, but women demonizing men and men demonizing women gets my goat. The rage expressed towards men by these women makes me wonder why on earth any of them would want to have heterosexual sex in the first place (I don’t know how many of the most rabid are actually doing that, but I would assume it’s at least a fair percentage).
The same is true, by the way, of those men who spend a great deal of blogosphere time dissing women in general because they think they’re all exploitative golddiggers who will invariably use and abuse men, so it behooves men to play the abuse game better and exploit women first. (I’ve briefly visited a couple of such blogs on occasion, but have happily forgotten their exact names so I can’t provide them).
Why bother, if you hate the opposite sex so much? Yeah, I know the sexual and aggressive/power impulses can be allied, but how much fun could it possibly be (for most supposedly non-psychopathic people) to have sex with someone they absolutely despise?
A long long time ago, with the advent of the Pill, I very naively thought that the new availability of reliable birth control that didn’t have to be used during the actual act of sex would mean that unwanted pregnancies would be few and far between, and abortions very rare. Ha! That dream—of control of pregnancy and limitation of children for the most part to those wanted by both the man and the woman—was, and still is, theoretically within reach, but in actuality (human nature and sex being what they are) far far away from realization.
And although one might think most people ought to understand that an unwanted pregnancy is not a matter of little import to either the potential mother or potential father, whatever one’s position on abortion rights, and that both have some skin in the game, this seems to often be a difficult concept to grasp or accept. Wouldn’t it be wonderful, though if more men and women could muster up some true sympathy—that is, empathy, compassion, and understanding—for the problems each group faces in dealing with the other?
It is hard to escape the conclusion that the so-called “sexual revolution” was a double-edged sword. It promised much, and although it did give couples the tools to responsibly plan pregnancies together if they decide to use them, it failed to deliver almost everything except the freedom to hook up more readily with people we don’t know very well, and probably don’t like very much, and to experience the consequences.

[NOTE: I’ve ruminated before on some related issues (here and here).]