Commenter “Dennis” wrote on the “Grace” thread:
So. A sleaze and a twit get together for an evening of mutual satisfaction. Disappointment ensues. Maybe it’s time to evaluate your culture.
Yeah, Yeah. I’m 73, and as Charlie Russell said : “An old man is a stranger in his own land” I can sure vouch for that.
When I read that I had just come from the memeorandum page, where I’d been glancing at the day’s big stories. It struck me that they seemed to be a combination of stupidity, triviality, and propaganda. And there’s nothing so special about today, either; it’s a feeling I have almost on a daily basis and it’s been building for quite some time.
So when I read that “stranger in his own land” quote my reaction was “Yes!” I can relate, although I’m not really old-old (as Whoopi Goldberg might say), and I’m not a man. But I feel increasingly that, although I can observe and remark on news events and/or memes du jour (among the latter would be the sad tale of Ansari and “Grace”), I seem to have an exceedingly different sensibility and outlook about such things compared to what’s current, particularly among young people.
The details of the events and stories keep changing. But I increasingly feel a sense of pessimism about where we’re going. In this post, I’m not talking about what led up to it; we’ve mined that territory a lot over the years. Right now I’m talking about my impression of the direction of the country. I know it’s a cliche that old people often think that way about young people, but that’s not a whole lot of comfort.
Which brings us in a very roundabout way to this story, in which the author of the Ansari/Grace article, 22-year-old Katie Way, unleashes a fusillade of ageist (hey, I can speak identity politics lingo, too) “mean girls” hatred at TV journalist Ashleigh Banfield, who had the temerity to criticize “Grace”:
According to report by Business Insider, HLN invited Way to appear on their network to discuss the story. She refused and sent this email to the HLN producer who invited her:
It’s an unequivocal no from me. The way your colleague Ashleigh (?), someone I’m certain no one under the age of 45 has ever heard of, by the way, ripped into my source directly was one of the lowest, most despicable things I’ve ever seen in my entire life. Shame on her. Shame on HLN. Ashleigh could have “talked” to me. She could have “talked” to my editor or my publication. But instead, she targeted a 23-year-old woman in one of the most vulnerable moments of her life, someone she’s never f”””” met before, for a little attention. I hope the ratings were worth it! I hope the ~500 RTs on the single news write-up made that burgundy lipstick bad highlights second-wave feminist has-been feel really relevant for a little while. She DISGUSTS me, and I hope when she has more distance from the moment she has enough of a conscience left to feel remotely ashamed ”” doubt it, but still. Must be nice to piggyback off of the fact that another woman was brave enough to speak up and add another dimension to the societal conversation about sexual assault. Grace wouldn’t know how that feels, because she struck out into this alone, because she’s the bravest person I’ve ever met. I would NEVER go on your network. I would never even watch your network. No woman my age would ever watch your network. I will remember this for the rest of my career ”” I’m 22 and so far, not too shabby! And I will laugh the day you fold. If you could let Ashleigh know I said this, and that she is no-holds-barred the reason, it’d be a real treat for me.
Thanks,
Katie
Katie Way is young, but she’s not in junior high, is she? See, I can be ageist, too.
As Dennis wrote, maybe it’s time to evaluate your culture.
[NOTE: Here’s what Banfield had said. At the very end there, her language wasn’t so very hifalutin, either, for a TV journalist compared to the olden days (“‘the only sentence’ a guy like Ansari ‘deserves is a bad case of blue balls, not a Hollywood blackball…'”). Then again, in my book, she’s young, too.]


