I’ve never understand the fervent embrace of abortion by some people on the left. Yes, I know the explanations the right tends to give: they’re evil, they love death, they hate children. But although I suppose that’s true of some people who seem to find abortion perfectly fine and even something to brag about, the people I know on the left are not like that at all.
So those explanations don’t work for me to explain the phenomenon as a whole. What I think is happening is something else. One of these things is that the rabidly intense and hate-filled activists you see who seem to be half in love with abortion are a small but vocal group and probably unrepresentative sample of the whole.
I remember the days when abortion was illegal, and yet plenty of people had abortions – illegal abortions, dangerous abortions. I know many who did, and most of them went on to become loving parents later on. Some regret their abortions, some don’t seem to ever think about them any more. But I believe that for most of them, their current support for the universal availability of abortion lies in their own experience of desperation and their fear of the danger inherent in an illegal abortion.
I don’t think that’s true for young people who don’t remember those days, but it’s true of many of the older ones.
On a personal note: I always had an instinctive horror of abortion and fortunately I only got pregnant when I wanted to. The way I accomplished this feat was through rigorous birth control. But pregnancies sometimes happen even when people use birth control, although fewer of them.
When Roe was passed, the idea was that abortion wouldn’t become commonplace nor would it substitute for birth control. At least, that was the rhetoric. Abortion would be “safe, legal, and rare.”
Roe helped make it safe and legal. It did not make it rare.
Nor did birth control make abortion rare, as it was supposed to. Why not? Is it because birth control isn’t perfect, is sometimes messy and always requires forethought? Is it because even people who often use it don’t always use it, and some never use it? And would more people use birth control more conscientiously if abortion had not become “safe and legal” as a backup plan?
I don’t know. I do know that sex and its connection to birth control is one of those things a great many people are not conscientious about, and this has enormous consequences.
The younger crowd – that is, people who have grown up post-Roe – have always known so many options, including many forms of birth control and also abortion that is legal in every single state. I believe that they have probably gotten used to the idea of having all those choices that include the choice to have a legal abortion from medical professionals and consider it the norm. Women can prevent a pregnancy in any number of ways, or they can end it through abortion (including, if early, the so-called morning-after pill). Or they can continue the pregnancy and keep the baby – not an option most people took in my younger days without getting married (the so-called shotgun wedding), at a time when being an unwed mother carried a huge stigma. Or they can continue the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption, which was much more popular in my youth because of the relative lack of other options.
All of these things have huge consequences and they are usually not easy decisions.
But people do not want to give up something they’ve always been told is a right, something they’ve always experienced as a right. And they don’t want to hear complicated legal explanations for why they must give that thing up if their state votes to do so (or travel to access it). Abortion is indeed about the unborn child, but it’s an inescapable fact that the unborn child is housed in the body of the woman for up to nine months. That’s a very intimate connection, to say the least, which is why the idea that this is a question of personal body autonomy came in when in fact there obviously are two bodies involved.
Many of the most fervent abortion advocates ignore the two-body issue or trivialize it. Many abortion opponents ignore it or trivialize it as well.
I hate the topic of abortion, hate it in every way. As I’ve already said, I’ve always been repulsed by the idea of abortion for myself and even in general. But I have witnessed the despair of women who are pregnant and feel desperate to end that pregnancy. I’ve witnessed it firsthand. And I’ve heard of bitter regrets that last a lifetime about decisions that were made as teenagers. It’s just so very very sad.
[NOTE: I’ve written many times previously about abortion. Some of those posts can be found here, here, here, here, and here.]