Comments on: Ghosting and cutoff – political or otherwise https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/ A blog about political change, among other things Sun, 15 Dec 2024 14:40:37 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.1 By: Cappy https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777470 Sun, 15 Dec 2024 14:40:37 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777470 Welp, wrt my sisters and some longtime friends, I still communicate with them, but it’s by text or FB, and very terse.

We don’t like the same people, places or things. I love them, but have no mutual interests, which is a kind way to put it.

]]> By: Mary Catelli https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777227 Sat, 14 Dec 2024 01:56:27 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777227 On the other hand, there are people who will insist to their graves they don’t know why this other person broke off contact, even when they admit at other times that they were explicitly told.

]]> By: Richard Aubrey https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777117 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 15:50:31 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777117 Marisa.

Very true. Hence the irrational resistance to contradictory facts.

As it happens, in various discussions, formal and informal, they are startingly ignorant of a whole lot of things you’d think ordinarily anybody would know. It’s as if they resist the stuff. And they’re proud of their college educations.

So, following the principle of parsimony, I figure there’s a Moral Outrage Alert Weekly Bulletin which tells them what to care about and what to dismiss and forget they ever knew. And that’s all they consult.

If there isn’t such a publication, whatever’s actually happening is pretty complicated.

What grinds me particularly, because I’m a veteran, is that in a group following the Oc 7 massacre, I noted that setting up to fight from among civilians is a war crime. They had no idea. We’ve been losing guys for sixty years trying to keep up our end of that law against those who do not. And not just in ones and twos. Fifty plus years ago, I ran into a guy who’d lost half his platoon due to restricted fire rules. Extortion One Seven cost thirty-six dead. The screw up at the Abbey Gate–Marine sniper had eyes on the suicide bomber’s vehicle and couldn’t get permission to fire–cost us thirteen dead and fifty-plus wounded.
THEY HAD NO FREAKING IDEA!

Except we and the IDF are the perennial bad guys.

Eesh. Think I’ll go do some pushups or something.

]]> By: BenDavid https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777090 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 10:55:44 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777090 Griffin and others ask:
Was ‘Ghosting’ a thing in the pre social media era?
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There was Miss Manners and her amazingly elegant Kafka Romance Dissolver – scroll down to the reader’s letter after the opening essay:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/1981/09/20/the-call-of-the-wild/5131c43b-bbab-4fe0-845d-b5e7e5a7bbe6/

]]> By: Marisa https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777072 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 06:59:39 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777072 It is very much true as some have mentioned that for many, perhaps the great majority of left or liberals of whatever persuasion or degree, their identity as a Good Person ™ a Caring Person ™ and a Smart Person ™ is very much wrapped up in their political persuasion. It’s not just a mind that’s difficult to change, so is one’s identity.

]]> By: Griffin https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777068 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 05:32:14 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777068 Huxley,

A friend has a workplace full of leftist women and they were unhinged the week after the election and she put it like they were crying toddlers and sometimes you just have to let them cry themselves out.

]]> By: DisGuested https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777067 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 05:30:03 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777067 Thanks Huxley. I hope it is sooner rather than later. God willing. I really do worry for this person. They are an important member of the community and many people count on them being sane. That is all I can say. Don’t want to risk it.

]]> By: neo https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777061 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 04:47:08 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777061 Aggie:

You gave an excellent description of what I find so dreadful about ghosting when it involves a relationship of any actual depth.

]]> By: huxley https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777059 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 04:44:49 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777059 …but I truly am hoping they will burn themselves out like a dog chasing its tail.

DisGuested:

I think you are right.

]]> By: DisGuested https://thenewneo.com/2024/12/12/ghosting-and-cutoff-political-or-otherwise/#comment-2777053 Fri, 13 Dec 2024 04:32:55 +0000 https://www.thenewneo.com/?p=138769#comment-2777053 I found this to be an interesting read about where some anti-Trump people are coming from and how they view people who voted for him:
https://open.substack.com/pub/leahrose/p/media-derangement-syndrome?r=p2ogp&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

I fear I am going to go through something with a long time acquaintance who has become unhinged by Trump’s election. They refer to him as abuser in chief and are absolutely out of their mind that half the country voted for such a horrible blank blank blank. It is hard for me to hold my tongue but I truly am hoping they will burn themselves out like a dog chasing its tail.

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