a while back i told the story of a friend named Odetta.
yes. the famous Odetta… the singer

anyway, one thing she said to someone at a private gathering i was at, came in response to their asking what did it feel like to be X? (x being a CV of the peaks of Odetta’s life)…

and odetta said, honey… if your waiting to feel any different, that will never happen. you always feel like you, its just everyone becomes a lot nicer too you and you get lots of invites and meet lots of people.

the point was that you always feel like you…
except when your pretending to be someone else

but in the case of this kind of person, what your missing is their need for validation as the change in life circumstances and status doesnt FEEL any different than when they were another way.

but also… you end up dating who you end up having access to, and not others. his first wife is who he had access to, before he was famous. after he was famous, only other famous didn’t care if he was famous. so he developed relationships with who he found interesting and around him. there is no way for him to meet others, nor after hanging out with them would others necessarily attract his attention.

not wishing to drum up an old argument, top models are more than just pretty faces, and bodies… at least at the top level. they are often educated, and they are bright if not smart, they eat like horses, and their lives are more interesting than the frappe girl in the village Starbucks. and then there is the validation the wanting to feel like you made it and a Cadillac just wont do.

there is also loneliness…
the being important one day, and the next day to month there isnt much of anything…

hanging out with average people ends as a drag unless you lie… and a lot of the things you go to that are events are part of how you keep in everyone’s minds and stay fresh. whats behind the red felt divider is not what people think. especially among the professional famous for who that is a part of how they live.

oh, and since you always feel like you and your mind dont age and feel old as you get older, his tastes remain the same as his late prime. he doesnt have kids with them, thats real expensive given the law…

and the early relationships were different than the later if you dont notice… where we forget to take the young ladies view and her ideas of who he is (and are excited that such a man is interested in them)…

they are in the beginning of their roller coaster ride, and he is much more along a very long one.

there are career considerations as well perhaps..
a lot of people i have met on the carpets are very dedicated to their lives being a certain way and they having a certain image to be seen like and so on. (with others not giving a damn as their way up wasn’t that way, it got that way after they arrived and stay in the game a long time).

funny thing..
we can ask him and he may not even know either

but my money is on boring obligations and access to such people at such events, hitting it off and so on…

to this day i am friends with a woman who i met that way at such an event… it was an actors party and they were holding court and i came by, and they who groveled for him, saw him treat me very well… so everyone was nice..

anyway, she is Swedish, blonde, and has starred in various Broadway and off Broadway plays in the US and Europe. we basically were bored, saw what a farce this was, and spend the evening reciting Monty python skits from memory, and hitting people with lines if they interrupted us. they would say excuse me, and i would say “welcome i am so glad your hear to have an argument”… or something

one day i was chatting with a model that wasn’t on that day and was supporting the designer and other friend models. we chatted, i went and did my thing and i was pleasant when i saw her… later that day she slipped me her phone number. for friends? for dates? i don’t know, i never called…

So its who and where you hang out too and what you do and so on…

[i should point out that a lot of these people have high incomes or are comfortable in a certain way. so that influences a lot of how they see relationships and being together. also, when two ‘stars’ marry or stay close, it rarely works out well. they both want the other to kiss their ass and that makes for an impASS (oy)]

That’s one way to measure things.

If he gets no long-term emotional relationships out of it, that’s for him to live (and eventually, die) with.

Probably in the category of much more than you ever wanted to know about Schnabel, including the 1995 photo of Schnabel in PJ’s by Annie Liebowitz at that link.

There’s much more info on the web about Schnabel and his PJ-wearing proclivities, but I’ll stop here.

I am glad you provided that link because I noticed that he does appear to be wearing a pajama top with his tux in the last photo Neo posted! Apparently that’s not unusual for him.

The one problem, however, is that Dionysus was remarkably handsome.

Schnabel is a mere pile of protoplasm informed by an outsized ego and an underdeveloped belief system who has a talent which has been rewarded with heavy gelt.

The moths that are attracted to his flame are also imbued with the conceit that they can break the mold.

Farce. Pure farce. Worthy of being a Greek play.