Comments on: No one knows what really goes on in a marriage…

By: Jewel

Jewel — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 21:22:32 +0000

Frost may have written this poem, but his reading of it left me cold.

as ice.

By: Deeka

Deeka — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:47:33 +0000

Being on my third marriage (we were both in our forties and Deekawife 3.0 had never been married before), I’ve learned much about the failure of marriage and little about how is succeeds.

Fire and Ice indeed. The passion and desire wanes with time (it does not mean there is no “love”, it just means the kitchen table survives to see another day). And as Artfldgr tells us, one does divorce a different person than one marries. And if we are honest, we admit the person we divorced sees us in the same light. We DO change over time. It is, I think adapting both to our own change and that of our spouse that holds things together. Recognizing that there is something that brought us together may not be enough. What keeps us there?

The third try has been so far-so good. I’m not doing this again.

By: Mrs Whatsit

Mrs Whatsit — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 13:23:06 +0000

There's this dark view, or this by-now-sorely-needed lighter one.

By: neo-neocon

neo-neocon — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 23:42:34 +0000

In reply to david foster. david foster: and then there's this one and this.

By: david foster

david foster — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 23:24:45 +0000

Leonard Cohen: Two went to sleep

By: Artfldgr

Artfldgr — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 21:55:39 +0000

the person you marry is not the person you divorce

By: vanderleun

vanderleun — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 20:10:21 +0000

“… dater of divorced men and witness to their stories…”

What? Where? Tell all!