Comments on: The 6-items-of-clothing diet

By: Richard Johnston

Richard Johnston — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:41:59 +0000

It's a question which has baffled better men than me.

By: Jim Kearney NYC

Jim Kearney NYC — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:34:23 +0000

Thanks for writing about this. You last post highlighting that model was quite a shock. Her PLUS size photo was absolutely beautiful, and who could imagine anyone more perfect as a woman? And mind you, I have loved much more imperfect versions of women in my time, and I was quite a player in my less conscious days.

I have grown to be a man who truly loves a woman more for what’s inside than out. Cottage cheese is fine if her heart is fine.

By: Thag Jones

Thag Jones — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 13:46:17 +0000

I’d rather have someone tell me if a particular outfit was unflattering (i.e. made me look fat); I would rather be told before I spend money on something I’m not going to look good in and before I wear it out anywhere.

Alex, consider it a lucky escape, lol.

By: betsybounds

betsybounds — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:01:42 +0000

Like this: 🙂

By: betsybounds

betsybounds — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:59:18 +0000

Never mind. It’s plain tops over patterned bottoms. Too early in the morning to figure out what to wear.

Oh shoot, wear whatever you want. And then–smile!

By: Alex Bensky

Alex Bensky — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:51:53 +0000

Well, unfortunately I have never been married, Neo, but even I know the answer to “Does this make me look fat?” is “no.”

I also know the answer to “Are you actually planning on wearing that?” is also “no,” and when a woman says to a man, “We have to talk,” the man will not like what happens next.

By: betsybounds

betsybounds — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:03:38 +0000

Oops. Make that patterned tops over plain bottoms.

By: betsybounds

betsybounds — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:01:51 +0000

I hate shopping for clothes, and so (not surprisingly) I’m not very good at it, and spend little time on it. I have very few rules. One is: Never wear dark colors above light or plain tops over patterned bottoms, and especially never ever wear dark shoes and socks below lighter colors. The first two make you look top-heavy, and the third makes you look like a clodhopper. Beyond that, I can get in a lot more spending trouble in either a book store or a food establishment with a large selection of French and Spanish olive oils.

I very much like the idea of, “Do you carry shirts? Good–I’ll take one.”

By: SteveH

SteveH — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 10:39:21 +0000

Whats up with the old tourist guy socks and shoes look in the first photo?

By: br549

br549 — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 10:18:34 +0000

There in lies the rub, Bupkis. In my experience, women don’t want men to fix the problem, they just want us to listen, nod, and hug.
I immediately, of course, want to reach for the pliers, phillips head scredriver, etc. and fix what is wrong. It’s what I do. But hardware doesn’t fix emotional things. And if root cause is emotional instead of mechanical or electrical, I am, unfortunately, out of my element. Ronald Reagan used to say the scariest words were “I’m from the government, and I’m here to help.” Nope, “Does this make me look fat?” blows that statement clean out of the water.