Comments on: A message from FredHjr’s wife

By: Prophet

Prophet — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 02:03:30 +0000

How Ironic a friend made a post today on FB that lead me to think of Fred once more.. I wounder what Fred would think that now this Die in the Wool Baptist has now converted to becoming a Catholic. No doubt I am quickly learning from the church what Fred displayed always patients and kind heartiness. Though in these political times many might disagree with that , it is none the less true. God Bless Monica and I hope all is well.

By: Prophet

Prophet — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 17:11:10 +0000

Was thinking of Fred today, which lead me to here.
FF certainly was lost without him, and many of us miss that ballance that kept us all from going insane.
I hope all is well with you. God Speed.

By: alan B'stard M P

alan B'stard M P — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:58:24 +0000

Dear Monica

How sad it is to hear of Fred’s passing. Good chap Freddy was. I hope you have family around helping each other cope with the loss.

I really can’t say more than what’s already been said

regards to you and yours

Alan B

By: goesh

goesh — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:55:37 +0000

I am so very, very sorry for your loss and the terrible ordeal you are now in. I found a grief group to be beneficial after my wife died 17 months ago. We continue on, somehow, in their honor and we continue being the people we were able to become because of them, thus they live on.

By: Baklava

Baklava — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 17:33:03 +0000

Your will always love Fred as I will always love Rennae.

I lost her on July 08th, 2006.

What I learned from her stays with me. I try to make her proud accepting that I’m not perfect. Her lessons made me a better man.

I think the most important thought that helped me was being grateful for having such wonderful memories and time and for having a love so good.

I know that the man she helped me become will benefit me forever.

You’ll realize the impact Fred had on you for years to come.

And you’ll smile. As he was a blessing.

By: Adagny

Adagny — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 16:09:32 +0000

To Monica and family,

I am so sorry for your loss of such a good man.

When something like this happens open yourselves to those around you because these shared moments can bring new closeness, new meaning and new understanding. Thank-you for allowing us to be there.

Sorrow;
It hurts deep down inside.
One feels diminished,
less than he has been.
Empty,
Bereft-
Forlorn and incomplete.
Sorrow is a painful word
but if someone is there
to share the feeling
it becomes endurable
and in the scheme of things
A time of being
that includes great emotion
and thus a time of closeness,
growing and becoming someone more
than we have been before.
-author unknown

By: neo-neocon

neo-neocon — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:38:25 +0000

[Jimmy J has some trouble posting here, so he sent this to me to post it for him.]

A poem for FredHjr.

TRUE MEASURE
Author unknown

How long we live is not for us to say.
We may have years ahead, or but a day.
The length of life is not of our control.
But length is not the measure of the soul…
Not length, but width and depth define the span
By which the world takes measure of a man.
It matters not how long before we sleep,
But only how wide is our life…how deep.

It is plain to see from Fred’s comments here and from your note that his was a life both wide and deep. We mourn, but at the same time we know were blessed to have known him, if even for a short time. May God’s grace be with you as you continue your life’s journey.

By: Tim P

Tim P — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 01:16:55 +0000

Monica,
Thank you for closing the loop with us. Though I did not know fred personally, I read his comments and we had a few brief dialogs. He seemed like a good man, which makes his loss all the greater. But our loss pales in comparison to yours. Our prayers and deepest sympathy.
I hope that as time goes by you keep Fred in your heart, as I’m sure you will and continue on with your life in the best possible way. It will make you happy in time, and I’m sure it would make Fred happy too.
I am reminded by a fragment of a poem by Edna St. Vincent Millay,
The hours I spent with you dear heart,
Are as a string of pearls to me.
I count them over every one apart,
My rosary, my rosary.

By: nyomythus

nyomythus — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 00:23:15 +0000

What a sweet and wonderful couple — loving another person like Freddy and Monica is a model for us all to remember, best wishes again to the family.

By: rickl

rickl — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:42:18 +0000

Monica, you said that Fred had a “wonderful brain”. That’s a quality that really comes across on blogs, and it’s impossible for anyone to hide the lack thereof for long.

Fred was one of my favorite commenters here, and he had some serious competition.

Thank you for your kind letter, and my best wishes to you and your family.