Comments on: You must remember this: a kiss isn’t just a kiss

By: Oblio

Oblio — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 22:37:05 +0000

I am only now old enough to realize that Ilse really loved Victor Laszlo far more than she ever loved Richard Blaine, and that Victor was the better man: principled, courageous, compassionate. This is difficult for me. When I was in college, I always identified with Monsieur Rick. Therein lies part of the greatness of the film.

By: Assistant Village Idiot

Assistant Village Idiot — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 19:04:45 +0000

Ah yes, the eternal mystery: how do you interest a woman? Listen to her. Bring small presents. Stroke her hair. Remember compliments. Pay attention to atmosphere. Ask about her day... How, on the other hand do you interest a man? Show up naked. Bring food.

By: dane

dane — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 16:02:19 +0000

Yes

A Kiss is just a kiss
A sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by.

By: I R A Darth Aggie

I R A Darth Aggie — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 23:08:12 +0000

And now you know why I give my women friends chocolate and not kisses…

I go for the bags of peanut butter M&M’s. I just hope that peanut butter is salmonella-free…yikes!

By: Mr. Frank

Mr. Frank — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 22:04:11 +0000

Yes, she is very beautiful with a depth rarely seen today. The “leading ladies” of that era have always struck me as more glamorous and mysterious than today’s stars. Maybe it’s the black and white and soft lighting that sets the mood. Given the very real difficulties of the period (Depression, war), the movies tried to provide a glamorous escape.

By: GeoPal

GeoPal — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 20:03:02 +0000

Jennifer, one theory: sex for men has less emotional significance and is readily available through prostitution and is therefore more of a commodity (“but honey, it was only sex, it didn’t mean anything”). Kissing is not as readily available through prostitution and often prohibited. The man therefore feels kissing is more of an indication of a woman’s genuine interest in him. Also, since it is the woman who has final say as to actual sex, a kiss represents the first important step for a man. Again, just one theory.

By: br549

br549 — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 18:01:28 +0000

As well as being (arguably) the greatest actress of her day, she was beautiful, wasn’t she?

By: Mr. Frank

Mr. Frank — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 16:15:05 +0000

Re Casablanca: They don’t make them like they used to.

By: Lorenzo (from downunder)

Lorenzo (from downunder) — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 03:41:18 +0000

The comment counter is now working for me too!

By: jennifer

jennifer — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 01:11:15 +0000

“levels of oxytocin, a hormone linked to social bonding that they expected to be boosted by kissing, only rose among the men”…but I’ve read that oxytocin is boosted A LOT for women in/after intercourse. (And yeah, this feels like it is right)

Why would it go up more for MEN with kissing and more for WOMEN with actual sex? Any theories?